22/6/22

Numbers to remember.  Any plan should have an expiry date.  Mine has one and it is a little less than 5 years from now.  There are milestones for me to achieve, some that will be easier than others.  Through all that, I have to remember the goal that will lead to greater independence, choice and new horizons.  I expect to be able to do more of what I want when I want.  I can do this now and have much happiness in my life, but I have this vision in my head of change that I think will bring me and my loved ones new adventures and experiences for us together.

The next 5 years will be filled with challenges the will make our lives amazing.  Afterwards, new challenges will come to be and I know that we will face them together.  I am looking forward to them.  🙂

So, I will remember 22/6/22 and will strive to check off the different milestones of challenges I want to conquer with the ultimate goal to be a better person for me and my family.  More to come on progress as it happens.

 

Funny Love

Heart

This morning, I woke up with these two words floating in my head: Funny Love.  Yes, I decided that whatever was in my head when I woke up would be what I write about today.   Perhaps not the most thought out idea in the world…

First, I asked my 10 year old daughter what those words made her think of.  Her response was a typically pre-teen “I don’t know”.  I think she knows but doesn’t want to tell me.  She is smarter than that, but, in her defense, she was eating breakfast and still half asleep.  I will ask her again later.  …  Ok, it’s later.  She says it’s “someone who likes someone for something, but then he likes someone else and ends up not knowing who he wants”.  Yep, that’s pretty funny.  Not in a ha-ha kind of way, but in a “figure it out cowboy!” kind of way. Funny love is confusing.

Talking to her, it made me think of the silly things I have done to make her laugh in the middle of the grocery store that were just for her.  I didn’t care what other people thought of my weird singing and dancing in the pasta aisle.  It was for my three, four or five year old.  (Yes, this went on for a while. I am sure the grocery store employees saw me coming and focused the security cameras on me every time.)  This is what we do for the people we love.  We ignore everyone else and do things just for them.  Even if they would seem completely insane without the other person around.  Funny love is focused caring.

Then, I started thinking about my relationship.  I say and do some weird shit if they are taken without context, but to my significant other, they make complete sense.  They make her laugh, either because she finds it funny or just because she thinks I may indeed be a little crazy, and that makes it worth it.  To see your loved ones smile and laugh, that is where the gold is hidden.  Funny love is closeness.

Oh, and it turns out that laughter is a natural pain reliever.  It releases endorphins, the same way as exercise, runner’s high for example, which reduce your perception of pain.  So, if you happen to sprain your ankle and someone tells you to walk it off, maybe you would be better laughing it off.  Seems more fun anyway!  If funny reduces pain, then why not pair it with your love?  Funny love is more comfortable.

Whether it is confusing, caring, closeness or comfort, put some funny in your love.

PS: Thanks to The Graphics Fairy for the cool image of a heart.  🙂